Ever since Kristen Chase was featured on Jumping Monkeys for her site Cool Mom Picks, I've been reading her blog called Motherhood Uncensored. I have been at a loss as to whether or not to post a link on my side menu. I've been reading it for 2 months now and I still don't know how I feel about it.
Most recently I've been a little disturbed by this post. For anyone too lazy to click and read it I'll sum it up. Men cheat because their wives have babies and get stretched out and worn down, they are lazy sacks of shit who don't help parent except to donate sperm, they lose interest in their wives and go for younger models, and all a woman can hope for is an empathetic spouse that sees how hard being a mom is.
Why is this all women can hope for? It's the 21st Century. Fatherhood is supposed to be jumping to a new level. Stay-at-home dads are becoming more common place, places like Dad Labs are all over the internet, books spout off about how parenting is a 50/50 deal. . . why are you settling for less?
Make him change some diapers, make him stay up with the crying baby while you sleep, he helped make that baby it's his job to help out.
As for the cheating and losing interest, around our house it's not that way at all. At the risk of sharing too much with family and friends who come here to read about Skippy Jr., my interest in my wife has flourished since the birth of our son. . . her interest in me has all but disappeared.
So maybe I'm wrong. Maybe this new trend toward being an attentive father makes her see me as less of a man. Maybe the changing and the bathing and the late night trips to the crib while she sleeps has done the same thing Kristen complains about. It won't stop me from wanting to be a good father. Hopefully, if that is the case, she'll decide that my help is a turn on and things will be different.
Tim Kubart in the studio
2 days ago